Thankfulness is being able to have a certain degree of appreciation for a certain thing, place, or person. Appreciation is the main aspect of being thankful. People who are thankful for something usually show their thankfulness in certain ways. One such way is through thanksgiving, where we celebrate our thankfulness of each other and the houses and meals we have been blessed with. Thanksgiving is the time to be thankful of our friends, our family and ourselves.
To me, thankfulness means that a person has realized the true value of something and is willing to do something to prove it. Showing your thankfulness does not come just once a year, but all year round. For example, lets say that a person named Jennifer has a cat. She loves her cat very much, so she gives her cat a wind-up mouse to show her appreciation. A person does not have to necceseraly do or give something to someone to show their appreciation, but to simply have the thankfulness within themselves.
Thankfulness is very important to my father. My father tells me that I should be appreciative for everything that I have, becuase when he was little his family couldn’t afford anything. He tells me that I am very fortunate, becuase I dont have to suffer such harships. Thanfulness is also very important to my aunt. She tells me that if a person does not appreciate something, then that person most likely does not deserve something.
Thankfulness has occured many times during my week. Some things are during class. My teacher is thankful of my citizenship, so in return he/she gives me a good citizenship grade. Another way that thankfulness has applied to me during this week is that I am able to be thankful for my friends, family, and teachers. In return, I show them respect. Thanlfulness will also apply to me later on the week as well (the upcoming thanksgiving). I will tell everyone in my household that I am thankful for having my whole family eat turkey with me. I will also be thankful for being able to have food in the first place, that we were all blessed with these gifts.
The feeling of thankfulness can only be achieved through experience. Only when a person has appreciation for something can that person be thankful. Sometimes, a person has to be deprived of something in order to appreciate it. For example, only when a friend leaves do you realize how much you really miss them. In fact, if someone is not deprived of something, he or she has not realized the true value of it and therefore cannot be “thankful” for it. Thankfulness is just another human emotion that makes up a human being, and if everyone learns to appreciate and be thankful of each other, the world can be a very loving place.
I'm grateful, God, for so many things. Now, I know I'm not the most grateful person you know, God, so let me take some time to tell you what I'm thankful for.
I'm grateful, God, for the gift of life. Without you I wouldn't be here. Without you nothing would be here. Without you nothing would be at all.
I'm grateful for my parents, God. Even if they weren't perfect, or completely functional, they loved me the best they could, and they worked hard to make sure that I had enough to eat, that I was clothed and that I had a place to sleep. I'll never know all that they did for me, like the things they did for me when I was a baby, but I can be grateful for the things that I know. Help me to be a grateful child, and remind me to be grateful in person. If my parents have ended their time on earth and are with you, help me to be thankful for their lives, and fill me with the hope of meeting them again in your company, where I'll be able to say thanks again.
I'm grateful for my friends, God. Even if I have only one good friend in my life right now, I'm so grateful. God, you show your love for me through my friends in ways that I sometimes overlook. They give me advice, sometimes when I need it, sometimes when I don't, which in both situations is a sign of their care for me. They listen to me complain, which I do too much, and they celebrate with me, even if things aren't always going well for them. They help me to laugh. And they help me to laugh at myself. That alone is reason to be thankful. Help me to be a good friend in return.
I'm grateful for my family, God. Yes, I know that all families are a little nutty, and mine is no exception. Even Jesus's family tree had its share of complications. But I'm thankful that, even with the nuttiness, I'm part of a family that has helped to make me the person I am. I know that they try to love me the best that they can. Help me to be a good family member, trying to help out when I can, make the phone call or pay a visit when they're lonely, and keep my mouth shut when I should be listening, or when I don't have anything sensible to add to the conversation.
I'm grateful for my job, God. It's not always a bed of roses, but at least I have a place to work and I am able to make ends meet. That's more than many people have. And I know the people I work with can drive me crazy, but they are doing their best, too. Help me to be a good co-worker, to give people the benefit of the doubt, to care for the people with whom I work, and not to take everything so seriously on the job. And help me remember that all work done freely and with a loving heart is worthy in your site.
I'm grateful, God, for all the things that I know many people in this world don't have. And that's a long list. So I'm grateful for food. And clean water that is easily available. And clothes. And heat in the winter and air conditioning and screens in the summer. I'm grateful that I can go to the doctor and get a check up and even get shots to help me avoid illness. That's a lot more than most people have. Help me to be grateful, and help me remember that I can help those who have less by being generous. That's one way of thanking you.
Did I mention how much I appreciate all the things you created? For the color of orange autumn leaves against the deep blue sky? For the smell of the sidewalk after a thunderstorm on a hot summer afternoon? For the way that the frost makes crazy patterns on windows in the winter? For the amazing smell of daffodils in the springtime? While I'm at it, I'm also grateful for the beach (that's a pretty great thing you created), the mountains (also great) and sunsets (really great). And hamburgers, too.
Most of all, God, I'm grateful for your presence in my life. You're everywhere, and if I remember to pay attention I can see you invitation to meet you in every moment of the day. I know that it is you who turn my mind to thoughts of gratitude. And when I'm tempted to focus only on the problems and worries and fears, I know that I'm being led away from you.
Now, I'm not always as thankful as I should be, but today I am. Today I will try to be grateful all day, since you are generous all day to me, like you are every day.
Originally published in America magazine.
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